The memory of smoke

The memory of smoke

Saturday, June 25, 2022

They know bloody well they are wrong.

 No one who truly believes they are right threatens to hurt anyone for expressing a contrary view. The snarling threat of violence never comes from people who calmly believe they are in the right. It is always the instant resort of the bully who feels the hot flush of shame rising in the cheeks and the cold rock of fear dropping in the pit of the stomach.

- The Atlantic

 Tom Nichols

Thursday, May 19, 2022

Epley Maneuver

 

  • Start by sitting on a bed.
  • Turn your head 45 degrees to the right.
  • Quickly lie back, keeping your head turned. Your shoulders should now be on the pillow, and your head should be reclined. Wait 30 seconds.
  • Turn your head 90 degrees to the left, without raising it. Your head will now be looking 45 degrees to the left. Wait another 30 seconds.
  • Turn your head and body another 90 degrees to the left, into the bed. Wait another 30 seconds.
  • Sit up on the left side.

Follow these steps if the problem is with your left ear:

  • Start by sitting on a bed.
  • Turn your head 45 degrees to the left.
  • Quickly lie back, keeping your head turned. Your shoulders should now be on the pillow, and your head should be reclined. Wait 30 seconds.
  • Turn your head 90 degrees to the right, without raising it. Your head will now be looking 45 degrees to the right. Wait another 30 seconds.
  • Turn your head and body another 90 degrees to the right, into the bed. Wait another 30 seconds.
  • Sit up on the right side.

Thursday, March 31, 2022

Negotiating with the terrorists

"When I think about the most painful conflicts and betrayals I've experienced, the worst thing they all have in common was the moment where the person who was supposed to care about me and be on my side stopped negotiating on my behalf and started negotiating with me on behalf of the person or situation that harmed me. That's the part I can't forgive, all the times it was supposedly on me to 'be the bigger person' and keep showing up to be mistreated. 'But you can't expect _____ to do the right thing, so you have to do it.' 'You're lucky and have resources that your [bully][rapist] [abuser]doesn't, you have to set an example.' 'Why do you insist on antagonizing _____[a person I just wanted to ignore and be ignored by literally forever and went out of my way to avoid] by [getting visibly injured/upset when they harm you] and [demanding that they leave you alone]?' 'Just give them a chance, otherwise how will they learn?'

Sunday, March 20, 2022

Infinte tolerance is a ridiculous stance that no one actually takes.

Racism is not up for debate. 

Homophobic hatred is not worthy of equal time.

There is no defense of genocide. 


There are not two legitimate sides in every situation. 
 
No, not all opinions are valid. 

Saturday, February 12, 2022

Oh, Canada.

 We have years of experience clearing white infrastructure snarling shit off our roadways.

Wednesday, December 29, 2021

Love as a verb is fine.

I prefer action words as much as possible. There is no "but she is your mother and loves you" as an excuse. If you replace love with what you truly desire and the sentence does not make sense it's time to reevaluate a relationship. "but she is your mother and protected you" nope. "but she is your mother and was kind to you" also nope" On and on. This is also a typical play of abusers. They push you and push you, for weeks, and then make the final push in front of other people. You react strongly. Your reaction matches the fact that you've been tormented about this topic for weeks, even asking, no begging, for this to stop. However, the people present for the last push only see that and you look crazy for the reaction.